Researching for clients and friends is one of my favorite things to do. It allows me to understand who they are on a deeper level and what makes them tick. These searches are usually positive and help me expand my knowledge of topics I know very little about and introduce me to unfamiliar worlds. However, there have been times when finding the unexpected turns my brain cells into emotional mush instead of mindful magic.
You are crazy if you think you can hide everything on the internet and deluded if your ego persuades you that nothing will ever be found. The power behind someones finger tips as they write their story or profile can breathe life into you or knock it out like a heavy-weight punch! What is inevitably unearthed can make or break you (if you allow it) and not for the first time, the universe and stars that twinkle from it, grouped together with a celestial lesson for me to learn; this time in the form of a phenomenal woman who reached 102 years of age, just a year older than my Grandmother who passed at the age of 101.
When I reach a grand old age (I believe that I will) will I look back on my life with a smile on my face? A wonderful life that I would want to re-live again and tap my feet to its beautiful music? And, the question that is unshakable in my mind;
How do you make the best out of an uncomfortable situation? How do you jump out from your cosy bed in the morning without hitting the snooze button more than once? How do we get rid of the ‘acceptable’ form of bullying that is The Jeremy Kyle Show and others like it from polluting the TV airwaves with mind-numbing stories that have nothing to do with us? It’s true that we don’t have to watch, but really, when did friends and family ripping each other to pieces become modern-day entertainment? Are you entertained? I know I’m not!
You’ve probably guessed by the introduction to my latest blog post that I’ve been thinking about the age we are living in, this age of acceptance and being thankful for everything we have including the stuff that resembles a dark cloud hovering over us. I also ask myself, “Did I find this grey mess that follows me everywhere or did it find me?” The idea of attraction bothers me and I believe it is misguiding people into believing that everything is their fault when actually, in my opinion, there are others who completely avoid taking any responsibility because we are cunningly duped and cajoled into laying the blame at our own door.
It’s not easy remaining positive as we look for ways to empower each other but it is essential if we want a moment of peace in the present and hope for what’s around the corner. A lifetime of balance is a little harder to achieve and there will be those, who, with only reasons known to themselves, intent on weaving their tangled web of negativity around our once free space. So recently I’ve been telling myself to be thankful but giving thanks to the things that cause me untold grief and agony doesn’t feel right or good for me. Do these negatives that stick in my throat like a boiled sweet help me to move on? If like me, you find the mistreatment of others incomprehensible, it takes longer to cough up the sticky alien and spit it out.
It goes without saying that I am thankful for my family, my health and the friends who no matter how far or busy they are I can feel by my side; I know who they are now. The thing however, which I am most thankful for is my ability and right to choose. I choose not to be thankful for the people and situations which make me feel worthless, I choose not to be within a whisker of negative forces, weakening and gradually squashing my confidence, I choose not to be grateful for the nonsense that keeps me awake at night for the wrong reasons; I choose sleep. I choose not to watch daytime TV.
The more I think, observe and mull it all over the more I notice that the imbalance of many lives today is caused by accepting everything without question; a convincing theory that makes us better people??! Believe that and you’ll believe anything.
Writing brings me so much joy and has provided me with an outlet for my thoughts, feelings and rants ha! The most unexpected and overwhelming thing to happen is the amount of support and togetherness from my fellow bloggers. You are a truly amazing assortment of lovely people who I am unbelievably lucky to have connected with through the medium of words. The latest of these is Manny, The Greenwich Mummy who has nominated me for The Versatile Blogger Award…thank you my love! To be recognised by your fellow pen pals is something I will value as long as I have thought in my head, the movement in my fingers to type and the sight to read your versatile blogs. Thank you all x
What is The Versatile Blogger Award?
It’s an award that is given to a blogger to show that their blog has been recognised for all its hard work, great content, and versatility in design, content, and/or style.
The Rules
If you’ve been nominated, there are a few tiny rules that you need to follow:
To thank the person who nominated (provide a link to their blog if you wish)
Nominate 10 other bloggers and let them know that you done so e.g. via twitter or leaving a comment
If you’ve already been nominated recently then I understand by all means if you don’t want to take part.
7 Interesting Facts About Me
I used to be a hairdresser.
My first client was a dwarf called Gilda Cohen, an actress who starred in the 1980 classic, ‘The Elephant Man’
I quit hairdressing for a call center job in a London hotel. I spoke to Muhammad Ali, Smokey Robinson, Patrick Stewart and Zsa Zsa Gabor who would always call me “Darrrrling”!
I failed my final exams at school after my mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I vowed to re-sit them and did when I was 30. I passed with ‘A’ grades in maths and English.
I am an author of two books of poems. Psyche a Soul Awakened and Thong n Cheek.
I have supported Arsenal football club since I was 7 years old.
I am a Greek Cypriot woman who left home at the age of 18. This was unheard of at the time so you can imagine the drama.
Well, that’s enough about me…I can’t wait to hear your interesting facts too!
She Be Fierce 