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Does He Represent You? How I Nearly Choked on My Chips!

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On your daily Google search, do you find thought-provoking quotes harder to come by? I’ve struggled to find ones that either make me giggle or think, “Nice one”!! So when I do discover what I see as a gem, I become quite giddy with ideas, planning my next blog post to pay homage to a few words that gave me a eureka moment. My most recent find was this, ‘Choose your lady wisely. She represents you.’

I was poised to write about how men see a lady, how men choose this vision in their minds to walk down the aisle, the red carpet or the garden path if she isn’t a lady in his eyes. After a very chatty ladies lunch (because even ladies love to eat) and after a belly full of fish n chips I decided to flip this quote and give it a makeover, if you will. ‘Choose your gentleman wisely. He represents you’.

Honestly, I nearly choked on my chips after hearing of un-gentlemanly methods used and of course, the question of do we attract them popped up like the pesky peas on my plate. Maybe the law of attraction is part of it but as I have written before, this only serves to make us look inside ourselves to take responsibility. I call this the law of letting someone else off, free, so they can do it again to someone else.

It is so important and healthy in any relationship for both to look at themselves, without ego, to change what isn’t working and most importantly to stop making someone feel like they are worthless. This has nothing to do with any law, quote or psalm but has everything to do with common sense and manners.

If he is treating you less like a lady and more like a doormat, do you think it’s ok for his feet to dirty your spirit? If she isn’t treating you like the gentleman you are, or are striving to be, why have the headache, why be close to someone who will embarrass you and make your efforts appear laughable?

What was interesting to me as we got to the profiteroles, was hearing how people who hurt you once have been allowed to creep back in. I have to say that the responsibility does fall on the person who re-opened the door. One of my friends always says, “Send them love and light”, I do, I send them love and enough light so they can see their way out! It can take a lot for me to see the light but when I do, there is no going back and I never have.

If someone has the ability to make you feel small, ashamed and wields their choice weapon of harsh words or actions intending to sabotage the hard work you have put into yourself, how can they be a true representation of you and why would you want them to be?

© Michelle Sotiriou 2015

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The Power of The Father – Your Rock!

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It’s Good Friday and I’m home alone anticipating an afternoon of snacking and biblical film watching. Biblical films may not bring warmth to everyone’s crib, heart or mind but I like them; I always have. I flick the channels in the hope of seeing Charlton Heston win a bloody chariot race when I come across another man who is just as impressive and bold. The Rock may not be a cinematic legend to all film junkies but I couldn’t help but be drawn into his charmingly enticing film ‘The Game Plan’.

Essentially, this is a film about The Rock (Dwayne Johnson) building a once lost relationship with his daughter and how he teaches her to be strong and never give up without trying her best. Very funny in parts and emotional in others, I grabbed the tissue box more than once. It got me thinking how important fathers are and the role they have which can be dismissed or not recognised as an intrinsic part of a son or daughters evolving life.

Whom ever coined the phrase, ‘be careful what you wish for’ really knew what they were talking about and my wish to watch a story about a father wasn’t exactly what I was expecting but its underlying message was just as important. We all know the worth of mothers and the bond that developes from the womb but I do feel that fathers are left a little to one side once their baby making duties are fulfilled.

It’s true that some are useless, absolutely useless in fact and I have seen at first hand the damage they cause because they are not ready to change, even for a life that they created. I have to say that I have experienced this type of father so when I see others who are totally committed to their children yet receive no mention, I feel it is time for them to be put on as high a pedestal as all mothers are.

The lessons, values and life-skills a father can teach their child are immeasurable and the time they spend doing so builds a special relationship which not only enhances a child’s confidence but also makes them aware that they are loved unconditionally without prejudice or judgement. Always there, always patient, knowing that their duty is to create grounded and self-assured adults.

With so many temptations and outside forces like the evil child catcher ready to pounce, a fathers role is more important now than ever before. Not all couples who create future generations make it, this is no excuse for a father to be any less involved. Stepping up, even on the hostile ground of a break-up really separates the men from the boys.

No parent should find themselves praying for the souls of their children, no parent should see their child in darkness and no child should suffer because of the sins of their father. Thanks to a wrestle mania giant, believe it or not, there was one message from ‘The Game Plan’ which stuck out further than his biceps; you man up not give up!

© Michelle Sotiriou 2015

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Intentions – A Limp Lightsaber Is No Use To Anyone

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Doing what I love and doing it often has become my mantra. It’s a no brainer really, but if like me, you have been more concerned with the intentions of others than your own, it may be time for you to break the cycle.

If you are a regular visitor to my page and enjoy my blog and poetry posts (hugs if you do) you will know that certain things prick my heart, soul, conscience and passion. It’s true that things bother me and no more so than the actions of people around me or more accurately, how in my mind, I perceive their message.

My perceptions are my sensory journey through life. They continue to be a blessing and at times an annoying itch that I am unable to reach. Well, I don’t want to break my nails or have scars on my ancestral olive skin so if my life is to be lived to the fullest, it is essential to learn a few things first.

My creative journey continues with some very exciting projects and collaborations. However, my spiritual journey took a whole new twist after I discovered Reiki. When I am drawn to something, I tend not to ignore it as I believe there is a reason for the path that is presented before me. It is this path that has taught me the most valuable lesson of 2014.

Reiki is about moving into a state of balance and achieving more balance in your life. My biggest achievement this year was studying and becoming a Reiki practitioner and at the very heart of this energy system is intent.

I mentioned intentions at the start of this post and after dedicating Reiki treatments to open and accepting clients, it has become clear to me that intent is powerful when channelled in a way that helps me and others with no other thought than the good of everyone.

There isn’t a day that goes past when the well-being of my friends and family hasn’t been on my mind. But, without realising, I tipped the scales of balance so far to one side catapulting me into outer space. Space travel is a childhood dream of mine but floating like a lost Jedi with zero power and a limp lightsaber isn’t how I pictured it to be.

The good intentions I have for others will continue to be part of my make-up. To change that would mean an uncomfortable shift in my character and that has been tested enough.

Through Reiki, my Reiki Master and the inspiring women I met in a room of tears, laughter and tea it became abundantly clear that the intention to develop myself through ‘Rei’, Universal and ‘Ki’, Life Force Energies is just the beginning.

How is this possible? Simply put, by the words of another master….

© Michelle Sotiriou 2014

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Followers of Fashion. What Would Jesus Say?

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Watching epic films is one of my favourite things to do. No matter how long ago they were made they still grab my attention, popcorn at the ready and cosy blanket are a god send for a well-earned cinematic experience in the comfort of my home. Tucked up on my sofa I watched King of Kings, a biblical story of Jesus. Not the best film ever made but this story always grabs my attention and I notice new things which have me comparing life then to the life we live now.

As I watched this man go from town to town, village to village and tax man to prostitute it struck me how many followers grew and walked with him when all he had to wear was a plain and unfashionable piece of cloth on his strong back. Today, anyone dressed in that fashion would be locked up or looked down upon. The message being heard now by fans, followers and the lost is wear Gucci, Tom Ford and all will be well in their world but are they misleading themselves?

It helps to talk about these things when drawing my own conclusions and a close friend pointed out that musicians and politicians use, as Jesus did, words to bring things to light and convey what you are going or have gone through which is why they have a fan base and loyal constituents. I agree with him, however, there are those which are hailed not for the words they preach but for how they have made a quick buck.

An example of this are the Kardashians.  Loved, admired and set on a pedestal by girls all over the world. Real people, with real problems, heartache and issues; we can all relate to the Kardashians but the flip side is that girls also want what they have. As I see it, there are three options to achieve Kardashian status in our world, work harder than you are already, credit cards and if you are patient, work with your partner for these material things. It seems that many of these ‘stars’ have it all but they didn’t get it over night.

The message from Jesus and many other religious figures and gurus is clear, love yourself and others. Perhaps these material things are a substitute until love is found? A momentary feeling that is based more on lust than love but ultimately fashions change and you will continue the search for love in every fashion house as the seasons pass. In my experience, finding what I love to do has made me happier than any garment my money can buy; I love nice things and jackets to keep me warm are my weakness but loving what I do each day keeps out the cold.

© Michelle Sotiriou 2014

“But as an adult working in the fashion industry, I struggle with materialism. And I’m one of the least materialistic people that exist, because material possessions don’t mean much to me. They’re beautiful, I enjoy them, they can enhance your life to a certain degree, but they’re ultimately not important”.

Tom Ford