blogger – Page 3 – She Be Fierce

On your daily Google search, do you find thought-provoking quotes harder to come by? I’ve struggled to find ones that either make me giggle or think, “Nice one”!! So when I do discover what I see as a gem, I become quite giddy with ideas, planning my next blog post to pay homage to a few words that gave me a eureka moment. My most recent find was this, ‘Choose your lady wisely. She represents you.’

I was poised to write about how men see a lady, how men choose this vision in their minds to walk down the aisle, the red carpet or the garden path if she isn’t a lady in his eyes. After a very chatty ladies lunch (because even ladies love to eat) and after a belly full of fish n chips I decided to flip this quote and give it a makeover, if you will. ‘Choose your gentleman wisely. He represents you’.

Honestly, I nearly choked on my chips after hearing of un-gentlemanly methods used and of course, the question of do we attract them popped up like the pesky peas on my plate. Maybe the law of attraction is part of it but as I have written before, this only serves to make us look inside ourselves to take responsibility. I call this the law of letting someone else off, free, so they can do it again to someone else.

It is so important and healthy in any relationship for both to look at themselves, without ego, to change what isn’t working and most importantly to stop making someone feel like they are worthless. This has nothing to do with any law, quote or psalm but has everything to do with common sense and manners.

If he is treating you less like a lady and more like a doormat, do you think it’s ok for his feet to dirty your spirit? If she isn’t treating you like the gentleman you are, or are striving to be, why have the headache, why be close to someone who will embarrass you and make your efforts appear laughable?

What was interesting to me as we got to the profiteroles, was hearing how people who hurt you once have been allowed to creep back in. I have to say that the responsibility does fall on the person who re-opened the door. One of my friends always says, “Send them love and light”, I do, I send them love and enough light so they can see their way out! It can take a lot for me to see the light but when I do, there is no going back and I never have.

If someone has the ability to make you feel small, ashamed and wields their choice weapon of harsh words or actions intending to sabotage the hard work you have put into yourself, how can they be a true representation of you and why would you want them to be?

Watching epic films is one of my favourite things to do. No matter how long ago they were made they still grab my attention, popcorn at the ready and cosy blanket are a god send for a well-earned cinematic experience in the comfort of my home. Tucked up on my sofa I watched King of Kings, a biblical story of Jesus. Not the best film ever made but this story always grabs my attention and I notice new things which have me comparing life then to the life we live now.

As I watched this man go from town to town, village to village and tax man to prostitute it struck me how many followers grew and walked with him when all he had to wear was a plain and unfashionable piece of cloth on his strong back. Today, anyone dressed in that fashion would be locked up or looked down upon. The message being heard now by fans, followers and the lost is wear Gucci, Tom Ford and all will be well in their world but are they misleading themselves?

It helps to talk about these things when drawing my own conclusions and a close friend pointed out that musicians and politicians use, as Jesus did, words to bring things to light and convey what you are going or have gone through which is why they have a fan base and loyal constituents. I agree with him, however, there are those which are hailed not for the words they preach but for how they have made a quick buck.

An example of this are the Kardashians. Loved, admired and set on a pedestal by girls all over the world. Real people, with real problems, heartache and issues; we can all relate to the Kardashians but the flip side is that girls also want what they have. As I see it, there are three options to achieve Kardashian status in our world, work harder than you are already, credit cards and if you are patient, work with your partner for these material things. It seems that many of these ‘stars’ have it all but they didn’t get it over night.

The message from Jesus and many other religious figures and gurus is clear, love yourself and others. Perhaps these material things are a substitute until love is found? A momentary feeling that is based more on lust than love but ultimately fashions change and you will continue the search for love in every fashion house as the seasons pass. In my experience, finding what I love to do has made me happier than any garment my money can buy; I love nice things and jackets to keep me warm are my weakness but loving what I do each day keeps out the cold.

“But as an adult working in the fashion industry, I struggle with materialism. And I’m one of the least materialistic people that exist, because material possessions don’t mean much to me. They’re beautiful, I enjoy them, they can enhance your life to a certain degree, but they’re ultimately not important”.

Tom Ford