Are you one of life’s good listeners? Attracting people who just want to expose their souls to a complete stranger is a very humbling experience and if you are a human being who doesn’t think twice about giving up a few minutes to hear them, more power to you! It happens to me often, to the point where I think I should charge for counselling services; I would have made a mint by now. Oddly enough they have done more for me and all of them have left an imprint on my mind and have given me so much to think about.
One of these was a cab driver who on looking at me through his rear view mirror decided it would be an opportune moment to tell me his love life story. People feel the need to talk and that’s a good thing, perhaps it’s easier with someone you’ve never met before and will never cross paths with again; unless there is only one cab driver in Essex! Anyway, as I’m big on loyalty (even with someone I’ve only met once) I won’t go into detail, but it made me think.
Like the ‘shrink’ from the ‘Sopranos’, I listened seeming detached at first but then found myself almost hypnotized by his heart-felt story. Finally, once I’d heard the entire tale, I asked the question. What kind of woman do men want? I understood the answer to mean a cross between an innocent servant girl from a Bollywood movie and the Greek Goddess, Aphrodite.
The servant girl: Smelling of detergent and saffron, avoids direct eye contact with the use of her intricately detailed veil and whilst her gaze is low, she allows him to talk without interrupting. She only speaks to ask his name and tells him she likes it. Then, she is silent once more. He wonders if he will ever hear her sweet voice again or if he heard it in the first place. She continues with her chores leaving him dumb founded!
Aphrodite: Smelling of Roses and honey, her veil is on the floor! She also, is silent. Her actions speak a thousand words. She has captured him in more ways than one and she knows it. She wants him to hold her but takes her pleasure by holding him and it shows. She will lead him to believe that there will never be another woman for him, not in this lifetime or the next. Only a fool would let her go!
Very different interpretations of women looking for love but they have two things in common, an air of mystery and confidence. Giving off a vibe that suggests you are in some way weak, vulnerable or easy will put a man off instantly or you become easy prey for a swooping vulture. In reality only men know what they want and what they are looking for, you’d be wasting your time trying to figure it out. Figure yourself out first, be sure of who you are; only then will you be sure of someone else.
© Michelle Sotiriou 2013