So you want to hide something?  That’s really what a secret is, but who do you trust to keep a secret for you?
Tread carefully and with caution as some things are best kept to yourself if you know what’s good for you. There are those that make it their mission to find out every detail and ‘dish the dirt’ at every opportunity.  This is alien to me as the last thing I would want to do is ‘out’ someone.  I have been told things that I will take to the grave, and people know that.
If someone asks you to keep something to yourself you should try to do just that. It may be unfair as they have now put you in an awkward position but trust is important.  Every situation is different so this is where your judgement comes into play.  If we think about it, the main reasons for keeping quiet are probably that you want to protect someone else’s feeling and if we are honest, our own too. 
What are people’s motives for wanting to spill the beans?  This is a minefield, if you know something that could potentially affect the way people live and are passionate about the rights of people in general then shout about it…there would be no stopping me that’s for certain.  Envy, insecurity and the worst motive of all boredom would have people talking about affairs of the heart.  Not theirs but other people’s, how sad.
So what should you do?  Stay home, don’t go to work, have no friends, delete your Facebook account, speak to  no one, look at no one…stop living!   Please, you don’t have to stop doing the things I’ve just mentioned all because other people can’t help themselves.  
The truth is you can’t stop them and you probably don’t want to stop what you do either even though your conscience is niggling at you.  The angel on one shoulder is saying “Don’t do it” and the devil on the other shoulder is saying “Do it, do it”.  

Such is life and human nature, there are some things you just can’t change…or hide.
© Michelle Sotiriou 2012

Me and my music

Music is the one thing I can rely on and many of us have a song or anthem that represents our lives.  Sad songs that you play when you’ve been dumped “All by myself”,  Gloria Gaynor with “I will survive” when you are passed the crying stage and are ready to cut up his clothes and throw them out of the window!  Cyndi Lauper with “Girls just wanna have fun” when you are over it, and for him?  Frank Sinatra with “I did it my way”, because they usually do…”that’s life” (Michael Buble)
One special memory I have is watching ‘Sunday night at the palladium’ with my mum.  She understood English but couldn’t really speak it, so you can imagine our surprise when Roy Orbison came on stage and starting singing ‘Pretty Woman’, well he wasn’t the only one.  My mum sang along with him and knew the song word for word, we stopped looking at Roy and just stared at her, opened mouthed, in complete shock but totally impressed with her, even more than we were all ready.
I first heard Reggae music thanks to my mum, Desmond Dekker’s “You can get it if you really want” and Jazz music from my dad, Louie Armstrong’s “What a wonderful world” was his favourite.  Songs influence people and it wasn’t obvious to me then but now that I understand the lyrics to these songs, I realize that my parents had dreams and were dreamers, must be where I get it from.
It’s so hard to explain what you are feeling or going through at times, songs can act as your voice when you can’t find the words.  Where would we be without great song writers?  It seems they can really tap into what is real connecting with their listeners. They are listened to more than any politician that’s for sure and thank goodness!
Thank you to those voices that make us feel something, thank you to those song writers who somehow know what we all need to hear. And for all of you music lovers out there, sing if you can and sing if you can’t…who cares?
If you’re singing you’re winning!
© Michelle Sotiriou 2012

Tell me a word, any word and I will show you the root of that word is ‘Greek’

The Amazons were a nation of female warriors in Greek mythology.  Queens of the Amazons were Penthesilea, who participated in the Trojan War and her sister Hippolyta whose magical girdle was given to her by Ares, her father.  The girdle was a waist belt that signified her authority as queen of the Amazons.
© Michelle Sotiriou 2012

Hollywood heartthrobs

Hollywood heartthrobs, the one fantasy you can have without getting into trouble! There isn’t a woman alive who hasn’t had an imaginary love affair with one of these screen gods and why not? What’s great is that we have the capacity to love the likely and unlikely of these heartthrobs too.
My love for films comes from the men and women in my family.  My dad introduced me to Clint Eastwood and James Cagney films at a young age.  I didn’t see Clint as a heartthrob back then but his directing skills make him quite sexy now showing imagination and the ability to think outside the box.
My dad’s family moved to England back in the 50’s.  His sister thought she would marry Rock Hudson because he sent her a signed photo of himself and my dad thought he was the next James Dean, white t-shirt turned up jeans and a quiff.  They spent Saturday afternoon’s at the flicks just to escape into a world that they dreamed of being in one day. 
My mum and her sister’s moved here in the 60’s when things where swinging!  The girl’s in their mini skirt’s, beehive hair do’s the higher the better, throwing your knickers at Tom Jones was acceptable and a new breed of actors hit the screens. Girls far from home now had a different view of men and these actors gave them an idea of how they would like their future husband’s to be like.

The actors of previous decades came across as dashing gentlemen, men that would ‘wait for you’. The 60’s and 70’s made way for the daring ‘I will rescue you type’.  I remember my mum having a thing for Burt Reynolds, hairy chest an impressive moustache and jeans so tight you wondered how his voice could ever be that deep!
Al Pacino as ‘Serpico’ does it for me on looks alone, long hair, beard, eyes like deep pools oh, I could go on.  

Intellect and what some  call ‘weirdness’ are the things that make a heartthrob these days. Yes, not only have we evolved as women but these actors we call heartthrobs have evolved with us.
Somehow they seem to know that we need something else from time to time.  
© Michelle Sotiriou 2012